Lover.

I love my partner. I love him more than I did when we took vows. I love him more than I did yesterday. We are not without our struggles, but we both want this to flourish, and so things are never bad. It’s always just growth with us. Days like today make me swoon and feel grateful for my good fortune. He’s been calling and being encouraging and sweet. He called just to tell me he had fun with me last night, and to tell me when to expect him home.

I love who he is. I love that he wears thick socks and sandals all through the winter. I love that his hair sometimes sticks up on the left side in the same spot. I love how free of judgment he is, that he doesn’t care about appearances, believing that humans are beautiful and flawed and shouldn’t try to be different. I love that he questions everything, and that he cares deeply about justice and truth and love. I love how enthusiastic he is with people. If he likes something, he usually says something like "This is fantastic!" I love his sense of humor and how he can get me to roar with laughter at ridiculous things. I love how comfortable he makes me, and how safe I really am with him. I love how proud he is when he’s been creative. I love that he’s always trying to learn and do better. He is aware that he is a work in progress, and he remains open to new growth. I love that he sometimes holds my head in his hands and says "There’s a person in there!!!" I love that I have no doubt that he is a good man, and that he has a lot to teach me.

I love how he loves our daughter. I love how he plays with her, how he’s always conscious of her, always conscious of me as a mother. I love how he changes her diaper and sings to her. I love how he wants to put her to bed every night, to give me a break and to have some sacred Papa-baby time. I love that when he dresses her in the morning, it’s never something I would put together for her. Sometimes it’s all on backwards. I love that he appreciates my work, and he tries to nurture me as a person and a mother alike. I love that our bodies connected and made a new family for us. I love that we can look at our sleepy little girl and just feel overwhelmed with joy for her, together.

The other night I picked a fight with him. It was about not feeling like he showed me enough affection recently. He said "You know, we’re in pretty good shape if our biggest problem is not cuddling enough…" It’s true. I think I was just feeling overwhelmed and perhaps he was being a little too distant. But, he has a point. This post is meant to remind me to be grateful for my partnership, and to keep telling him that I’m grateful for it too.

 

Gracie
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Comments (31)

  1. afistinthefrill

    this is so beautiful, grace ♥ it’s very important to reconnect sometimes and remember all the reasons why you love who you love.

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Yes!!!

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  2. hanitious

    Grace, this was beautiful, after reading this I had to ring Ant up and tell him how much I love him. From reading this I see a lot of Jeffs (wonderful) qualities in Ant. We’re two very lucky ladies πŸ™‚

    Also, Grace, I must say, that your hair in that last picture is lovely.

    I’m glad that you’re well and happy.

    x

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Aw, how sweet! I’m glad you have him. We are lucky, aren’t we?

      That was my wedding hair… I loved it! If only it naturally was lightly curled with ribbons.

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  3. publicansdecoy

    Lovely post πŸ™‚

    I’m so glad you’re on my friendslist.

    -x-

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Right back atcha! I miss your frequent posts- but I’ll take what I can get. πŸ™‚

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  4. brigittefires

    I envy your healthy relationship, and sincerely wish you yet happier days ahead πŸ™‚

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      And to you! I hope you’re sleeping soundly soon!

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  5. poppleshatesyou

    I don’t have any words for this, just big big smiles. πŸ˜€

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Big big smiles are the best. πŸ™‚

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  6. 93_millionmiles

    Aww, I love posts like this. I hear the opposite from so many others far too often about the people who share their lives.

    And we have some stuff to drop off for you. Call me sometime. <3

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      I know, it’s so sad! I was partially thinking of doing this because I know a lot of couples who rag on each other in front of us, or just talk about the other behind their backs, and I’m just really grateful it’s not like that with us.

      Ok! I will. This week is a little hectic, but I think maybe Thursday evening I’m around. I’ll call, but do you think that would work for you?

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      1. 93_millionmiles

        Sure, whenever you want. πŸ™‚

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  7. vianna_dufaye

    This makes me smile.

    And, the third picture makes me giggle.

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Yay! How are you?

      Pirate Jeff is one of the best ones… “The Frenchy” is one of the worst… Oh, the many faces of Jeff.

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      1. vianna_dufaye

        Is Jeff an actor in his spare time. πŸ˜›

        I’ve been having a serious case of ‘meh’ lately, but I’m good. I’m going to be going to this thing later.
        How might you be?

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        1. Gracie (Post author)

          Oh, those cases of “meh”. So pesky.

          I’m really good. Keeping busy, sometimes to a fault. I’m happy, feeling grateful if you weren’t able to tell…

          Coffee soon!

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  8. ladyfaith3

    YOu are such a sweet person!! I am very glad to have met you on this blog site! I love that you post so feely and heartfelt! It is a very good reminder to all to value the people in our lives!!

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      I’m glad to meet you, too!

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  9. unicorntapestry

    I love you and I love Jeff and I love that I get to see you this summer!
    Didja show him this post? Because you should. Maybe you could print it out and pretty it up and give it to him for his birthday or something.
    Did I mention I love you?

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      I super duper love you!!! Yes you are coming to see us! Woohoo!!!

      A song for you:

      I think I will show him. Good idea.

      Have I told you that I love you?

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  10. stupidfool

    awww, it’s so nice to take time to focus on all the good things about him… this is a beautiful post (and i love the pirate picture of him! πŸ™‚

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      You helped to inspire me with your post about the work it takes to get into this mess with someone, and why I feel like it’s been so worth it for me.

      A song for you:

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  11. purerandomness

    This post made me so happy. πŸ™‚

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Yay!

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  12. see_anotherside

    This is one of the best posts I’ve read from anyone in a long time. It’s beautiful and truthful, and it’s just really heart-warming to see people so happy in love. Ste and I are having a slightly difficult time at the moment – not with each other, it’s outside factors that are getting us down and we’re bickering more, but our relationship is still solid. Yay for love!

    How long have you and Jeff been together? You’re a wonderful couple and I’m confident that you’ll share many more years of happiness πŸ™‚

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Aw, what nice things to say! It seems to me like you and Ste really love each other, but are maybe picking up on the bad energy from the people around you (the roommates and whatnot…). I hope things start feeling a little more peaceful soon. πŸ™‚

      We’ve been together 5 years, just about exactly. I’ve known him for 10 though. Not well, but I remember that I didn’t think he was at all my type when I first knew him. Then one day, I was randomly hanging out with this guy I was sorta interested in- we were gonna play some music and hang out at his house. Turned out that Jeff lived with him, and he played his mandolin to my songs… That was it for me!

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  13. pithy_epigrams

    I think that it’s really great that you took a moment when you were slightly unhappy with someone and turned it into this. So many quarrels/mini fights could be easily and happily resolved by doing this.

    You guys are so perfect for each other.

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      πŸ™‚

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  14. Anonymous

    That may have been one of the sweetest things I’ve ever read. Hope you, Jeff, and Vera are well.

    Sarah Leicher

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    1. Gracie (Post author)

      Sarah! We miss you! Hey, whenever you are in town we should all get together. Let me know if you start up a new journal, or start writing again, I’d love to read about what you’re up to. πŸ™‚

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